To be anything more than balding fat pricks who perv on their Asian secretary?
HONESTLY how can you ever marry anyone or have a child with them?
I turned 23 not long ago and considering I spent my childhood declaring I’d be married and have my first child by 25 I am surprised how far off from that I am mentally. (Though I shouldn’t really take my younger self too seriously as I had a very strong phase of wanting to be called Daisy…)
I cannot fathom how people do it. I don’t believe a person can ever be fully convinced that they have found someone who isn’t going to hurt them. What’s to say they won’t fuck you over and up and leave you? Cheat on you! Surely it only ups the steaks if there is a child involved. Don’t you have to KNOW they will always take care of your baby before you even consider talking about stopping contraception? Right?!
Yet I am seeing many of my friends having children. The only thing I can credit them for is that they’re not married I suppose, though I doubt that’s because they share my views.
There is absolutely no way to ever know if it will work, whether the person will be a good husband, wife, father or mother. Am I the one disillusioned here? Am I just the most untrusting person in the world? Perhaps. But I can’t see it any other way.
I know of good happy marriages of people who I love and respect and I don’t mean this post to take issue with them - rather praise them for being the only shred of evidence that counters me. The staggering amount to support me, however, leads me to believe I will never change my mind.
Perhaps I just feel more threatened today, less in control, but I just can’t seem to shake the feeling: why risk it?